Around this time last year, I was receiving a handful of incident reports from Gia’s previous daycare concerning her biting other children. I was really frustrated and fed up so I asked my Facebook friends and family if they had any ideas on how I should help her. Some of them were:
- Tell her to stop biting. ( Duhh… I had been doing that.)
- Put her in time out. ( That doesn’t work for my baby or it’s not being used correctly at daycare.)
- Reward system. (Tried it.)
- Shadow her at school and see what’s going on. ( Her previous daycare wouldn’t allow it! That was a red flag and why I yanked her out of there.)
- Read books about not biting and give her a word or phrase to express her feeling. (DING DING DING! THIS WAS THE WINNER!)
I mean really! My two-year-old is a chit chatting machine and she understands very well. So that’s what did.
In the living room, near her toys, we posted a “Feelings” poster. We have been using this as an educational tool to help her express what she is feeling inside. We also checked out some books on biting and expressing our feelings.
She now has several phrases and better actions that she can use to express herself. We went over a phrase and an action for what she could do when she gets upset. I told her to put her hands up and say, “Stop it.” She utilizes this one very well, even with me, her mother! Haha! And you know what I do, most of the time, I listen. I listen because I want her to feel like she is heard and that she is important.
Therefore, my suggestion to you, the Mama with a little who is biting kids, is to give him/her a word. Give them an action that they can use instead. Correct the behavior. Don’t just spank them or yell at them and tell them not to do that. Show and tell them what to do instead. Show them that by talking and using an action, other than biting, gets the same results without hurting anyone.
This isn’t anything new. I had posted a video of Gia singing the children’s song, “Yes, Jesus Loves Me,” some time ago and here it is:
As I revisit this video and this song again I am moved. I am moved because Gia sings this song all day everyday! It doesn’t matter where we are at, she will burst out in song and I am not even sure if she realizes what she is saying.
I pray that one day she would understand. I pray that one day she would know without a shadow of doubt that Jesus loves her simply because the Bible tells her so. I pray that she would recognize Jesus’ love for her each and every day. I pray his love for her would lurer her and cause her to love him back. I pray that she would love Jesus all the days of her life. My little girl, she is so sweet and so kind and so loving. I am so grateful for her!
If you are living on the East coast or anywhere where there is cold weather ( anything below 60 degrees) then you could use some help with deciding what to do with your baby indoors.
- Super Heros- If your child is anything like mine then you know how crazy these kids are about super heros. From time to time Gia will throw a towel over her shoulders and ask me tie it with a rubber band. One evening I decided to join her and we had an awesome running up and down the hallways of our home pretending to be be Super Girl! It was a lot of fun! I also burned some calories and Gia slept through the night without a problem!
- Flashcards- Gia is at this age when she thinks learning is fun. Every now and then we go to the Dollar store and get her flash cards to learn and play with. Sometimes she will get a reward ( Cookies or Juice) if she gets the whole deck right, other times I just tell her how smart she is and how great of a job she did. She loves being told that she does a good job so when she does, I try to let her know that I see her.
- Dance Party- turn on some kid friendly music and boogie on down! While this is really easy and may even be a small activity your child/ren will get a good laugh out of it. Don’t worry about dancing to the rhythm , be goofy and copy some of their dance moves. They will love it!
- Old McDonald’s Farm Animals- Do you remember that song? Sing the song or even find it on YouTube and sing along.Then during the parts when you have to make the noise of the said animal you make the noise! Who cares if you are in 40s, you are never too old to be silly. And who cares if your child is not 3 anymore, they are never too old to revise a classic. For example, sing “Old McDonald’s had a farm, E I E I O and on his farm he had a duck — now this is when you quack like a duck, at the top of your lungs if you wanted to– E I E I O.”
- Build a Marshmallow House- All you will need are marshmallows and pretzel sticks. Show your child how to stick the pretzel stick in the marshmallow and use them to build something. And when you’re all done, eat it! This would be a great activity to do around snack time.
Okay, so don’t roll your eyes at me, and I totally understand if you think that some of these activities require a lot of movement, but understand that I am trying to help you out here. A tired baby is a good baby, even if you have to wear yourself out a little too to get there.
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Over the last couple of weekends Gia has been asking to get messy with paint!
At first I thought nope! Nope! NOPE! And then I thought… well.. a little paint couldn’t hurt anyone and so we painted!
Last weekend we painted, cats and pumpkins and leaves. This weekend we painted the letters G I A in purple. And while it was all super messy, Gia was content and having a great time!
Mama, sometimes it’s OK to messy. It’s OK to get messy if the mess can be cleaned up and if means that your child will be happy. It’s also OK to get messy if it means that you have more pretty paintings and art work to hang up around the house or in their bedroom or on the fridge. It’s all apart of enjoying your little one while they are still little.