Around this time last year, I was receiving a handful of incident reports from Gia’s previous daycare concerning her biting other children. I was really frustrated and fed up so I asked my Facebook friends and family if they had any ideas on how I should help her. Some of them were:
Tell her to stop biting. ( Duhh… I had been doing that.)
Put her in time out. ( That doesn’t work for my baby or it’s not being used correctly at daycare.)
Reward system. (Tried it.)
Shadow her at school and see what’s going on. ( Her previous daycare wouldn’t allow it! That was a red flag and why I yanked her out of there.)
Read books about not biting and give her a word or phrase to express her feeling. (DING DING DING! THIS WAS THE WINNER!)
I mean really! My two-year-old is a chit chatting machine and she understands very well. So that’s what did.
In the living room, near her toys, we posted a “Feelings” poster. We have been using this as an educational tool to help her express what she is feeling inside. We also checked out some books on biting and expressing our feelings.
She now has several phrases and better actions that she can use to express herself. We went over a phrase and an action for what she could do when she gets upset. I told her to put her hands up and say, “Stop it.” She utilizes this one very well, even with me, her mother! Haha! And you know what I do, most of the time, I listen. I listen because I want her to feel like she is heard and that she is important.
Therefore, my suggestion to you, the Mama with a little who is biting kids, is to give him/her a word. Give them an action that they can use instead. Correct the behavior. Don’t just spank them or yell at them and tell them not to do that. Show and tell them what to do instead. Show them that by talking and using an action, other than biting, gets the same results without hurting anyone.
That is the title of the article and research conducted by Pew Research that I will be responding and referring to as I try to help you understand why Christian Single Mama is a ministry that I am so passionate about.
As a single mother who grew up in the church and even went through programs to help me stay pure, I find little to no support for the Christian single mom who has never been married. There are plenty of ministries out there for moms who are now single because of a divorce. There are plenty of organizations for single moms who aren’t in church and who aren’t Believers. But what about the others?
What about the Christian Single Mamas that have never been married?
According to the article, 44%, more than four-in-ten, single mothers have never been married. To state the obvious, that’s almost half!
What’s going on in the World?
When the marriage rate is low and the divorce rate is high, it’s no surprise that the rate of single moms who have never been married is what it is.
Since May 8,2016, I have made it my business to try and serve and minister to “the others”, to the Christian Single Mamas who have never been married. While I don’t know how many of that 44% are Christian Mamas, I am sure there are some and if you know of one, please tell her about Christian Single Mama!
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What a great reminder shared from Author Earvin Kyle Amacan. You don’t have to wait until your child is older to train them to do ANYTHING. You can literally start today!
Here a clip of me training my daughter to pray.
That was me asking my daughter if she wanted to pray. This is how we usually start off. Afterwards we prayer for Gia and for those that are in her life. And let me tell you, this little girl reminds me EVERY night that we have to pray. I pray with her first and then when she’s good and sleep, I pray alone.
It’s so important for me to pray with her because it’s my heart’s desire to see her chase after God’s own heart. It’s what God wants as well. I also want for her to have a relationship with God first and foremost. So we pray, and sometimes we read her baby Bible, and we sing songs like “Yes, Jesus loves me” and “Father Abraham” and it’s all for the glory of God. I believe with my whole heart that I am planting a seed and I know that God will take care of it.
So Yes, Mama! Your newborn, your infant, your toddler, your mini adult ( HAHa!!) is never too young to learn something. Start today! Start praying with them. Start singing to and with them. Dance with them. Plant that seed and watch Papa God do the rest.