What To Do When The Kid That Bites Belongs To You.

Around this time last year, I was receiving a handful of incident reports from Gia’s previous daycare concerning her biting other children. I was really frustrated and fed up so I asked my Facebook friends and family if they had any ideas on how I should help her. Some of them were:

  1. Tell her to stop biting. ( Duhh… I had been doing that.)
  2. Put her in time out. ( That doesn’t work for my baby or it’s not being used correctly at daycare.)
  3. Reward system. (Tried it.)
  4. Shadow her at school and see what’s going on. ( Her previous daycare wouldn’t allow it! That was a red flag and why I yanked her out of there.)
  5. Read books about not biting and give her a word or phrase to express her feeling. (DING DING DING! THIS WAS THE WINNER!)

I mean really! My two-year-old is a chit chatting machine and she understands very well. So that’s what did.

In the living room, near her toys, we posted a “Feelings” poster. We have been using this as an educational tool to help her express what she is feeling inside. We also checked out some books on biting and expressing our feelings.

She now has several phrases and better actions that she can use to express herself. We went over a phrase and an action for what she could do when she gets upset. I told her to put her hands up and say, “Stop it.” She utilizes this one very well, even with me, her mother! Haha! And you know what I do, most of the time, I listen. I listen because I want her to feel like she is heard and that she is important.

Therefore, my suggestion to you, the Mama with a little who is biting kids, is to give him/her a word. Give them an action that they can use instead. Correct the behavior. Don’t just spank them or yell at them and tell them not to do that. Show and tell them what to do instead. Show them that by talking and using an action, other than biting, gets the same results without hurting anyone.

Good luck!

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In Christ Alone

Some time ago I published a devotional on Who I am in Christ? Check it out if you haven’t already OR if you’re like me, read it again cause you can’t remember what it was about.

Now you maybe wondering how I don’t remember what it says when I was the one that wrote it. Haha! Yea… no excuse other than, I’m a mom, I have a toddler, I work full time, I forgets.

However in it you will find some pretty encouraging words, that when I read over it for the second time really helped me out of this funk that I’ve been in since Sunday. And this “funk” may come as a surprise to you, but I have a confession to make… I am working through my insecurities and low self-esteem.

Over the weekend I had a chance to be alone for a little while and hear God’s voice. I had prayed and my questions were answered. I know right from wrong and most times it’s easier to do wrong. Like Paul in ….  I asked God why?

Me: Why when I want to do right, I go left.?

God: When you are weak I am strong.

Me: God, I am weak?

* The light bulb comes on *

To the World, I’m not weak, but I am strong. I am strong because I work full time. I am strong because I go to school part time. I am strong because I spend time with my child. To the World I am strong, but they have no clue what’s going on in the inside and they don’t know that I am struggling internally. But God knows, he knows when the last I read my Bible was. He knows when the last time I spent more than 2 minutes in the car praying and talking to Him was. He knows my thoughts and my intentions. He sees me differently than I see me.

I see me a broken, scrunched up rose. I have yet to be in a healthy relationship so I don’t know what to look for when dating. I provide a generous and an unrecognized amount of support to those I love. I love food, but I want to loose weight. I don’t care for the way I look too much at all. I’m always longing for something better. To myself, I am not enough and to that God says, “You are weak.”

He says, “You would see yourself as I see you if only you spent a little more time with me.” He says, ” You are more than your past mistakes, even the ones you just made yesterday.” He says, “You are fearfully and wonderfully made, my child, you are beautiful.” He says, “You are more than enough because of him who lives inside of you.” He says, “You are loved.” And to that I say, “Thank you Jesus.”

Thank you Jesus for reminding of the devotional about who I am in Christ, that I wrote! He knew back then that I would need it for this present moment. In the devotional I wrote, “You ARE who GOD says you are! When you start believing in who God says you are, you will start acting like it. ” On the next page there are scriptures that answer the question of, “Who does God say I am?”

God says you are above and not beneath.

God says you are loved.

God says are his child.

So I rest in that. I rest in knowing that every negative thought that I have about myself is not true. I rest knowing that the Creator of the Heaven and of Earth thinks I am something good. I rest knowing that it is GOD who decides how much I am worth and to him I am worth dying for.

My worth is found in Christ alone.

Dollar Store Shopper

12 Household Items You Should Buy at Dollar Tree

is the name of the really helpful article found on Passion For Saving’s blog! Some of the items that are listed that I currently buy or have bought are:

  1. Dryer sheets.
  2. Kitchen tools
  3. Febreaze
  4. Lysol
  5. Mr. Clean erasers

Mama! As a single-working mama, I am ALWAYS looking to save money and cut corners.   When you compare the prices at the dollar store or Dollar Tree to those at Walmart or any other discount store, you save so much more!

Those few extra cents that Walmart adds on make a difference when you are living on one income.

I encourage you Mama, when you go shopping shop smart! Come up with a plan, shop at more than one store, make a list of what you need and then see who has it for less. There are apps that you can download onto your phone to help you look for cheap items. It’s hard work, but it’s worth it! Your bank account and your pockets depend on it!

Never Been Married

More of today’s mothers, have never been married.

That is the title of the article and research conducted by Pew Research that I will be responding and referring to as I try to help you understand why Christian Single Mama is a ministry that I am so passionate about.

As a single mother who grew up in the church and even went through programs to help me stay pure, I find little to no support for the Christian single mom who has never been married. There are plenty of ministries out there for moms who are now single because of a divorce. There are plenty of organizations for single moms who aren’t in church and who aren’t Believers. But what about the others?

What about the Christian Single Mamas that have never been married?

According to the article,  44%, more than four-in-ten, single mothers have never been married. To state the obvious, that’s almost half!

What’s going on in the World?

When the marriage rate is low and the divorce rate is high, it’s no surprise that the rate of single moms who have never been married is what it is.

Since May 8,2016, I have made it my business to try and serve and minister to “the others”, to the Christian Single Mamas who have never been married. While I don’t know how many of that 44% are Christian Mamas, I am sure there are some and if you know of one, please tell her about Christian Single Mama!

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Many exciting things will be happening in the near future so don’t miss out! Get connected with the Ministry of Christian Single Mama TODAY!

Devotional #6 | Life Lessons from Ephesians

This week I want to steer our focus from one specific topic and put it on one specific book in the Bible; Ephesians.

It is my hope, as it with all of the devotionals that Christian Single Mama compiles and shares, that us Mamas would grow and mature in Christ.

Check out Devotional #6 located in the Devotionals tab.

Hey Mama| I Will Train My Child Now

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” -Proverbs 22:6 Thanks Lord for reminding me of it. Actually, I have this my mind for my son be…

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What a great reminder shared from Author Earvin Kyle Amacan. You don’t have to wait until your child is older to train them to do ANYTHING. You can literally start today!

Here a clip of me training my daughter to pray.

That was me asking my daughter if she wanted to pray. This is how we usually start off. Afterwards we prayer for Gia and for those that are in her life. And let me tell you, this little girl reminds me EVERY night that we have to pray. I pray with her first and then when she’s good and sleep, I pray alone.

It’s so important for me to pray with her because it’s my heart’s desire to see her chase after God’s own heart. It’s what God wants as well. I also want for her to have a relationship with God first and foremost. So we pray, and sometimes we read her baby Bible, and we sing songs like “Yes, Jesus loves me” and “Father Abraham” and it’s all for the glory of God. I believe with my whole heart that I am planting a seed and I know that God will take care of it.

So Yes, Mama! Your newborn, your infant, your toddler, your mini adult ( HAHa!!) is never too young to learn something. Start today! Start praying with them. Start singing to and with them. Dance with them. Plant that seed and watch Papa God do the rest.

Stand Strong

IMG_20160527_125639I get it, Mama, I do. Sometimes we get weak and weary and every day feels like a Monday, and it seems like the weekend is too short. But I want to encourage you today to tap into that supernatural strength provided to you from our Heavenly Father.

Vent to Him and let him know that you may not be looking forward to this week at work. Let him know that you are struggling financially and need some open doors. Let Him know that your child is almost two and she is running up a MUCK!! Haha.. OK sorry, those are my issues. But you know what I mean. Share your heart with the Lord and then

Stand strong in the Lord.

Stand strong with your head held high and flex those muscles a bit. Let those problems know that your God is Greater! Let that ol devil know that he has no power over you. Wipe those tears from your eye and get back to work! Do not worry, be strong, and know that EVERYTHING is going to be OK.