What To Do When The Kid That Bites Belongs To You.

Around this time last year, I was receiving a handful of incident reports from Gia’s previous daycare concerning her biting other children. I was really frustrated and fed up so I asked my Facebook friends and family if they had any ideas on how I should help her. Some of them were:

  1. Tell her to stop biting. ( Duhh… I had been doing that.)
  2. Put her in time out. ( That doesn’t work for my baby or it’s not being used correctly at daycare.)
  3. Reward system. (Tried it.)
  4. Shadow her at school and see what’s going on. ( Her previous daycare wouldn’t allow it! That was a red flag and why I yanked her out of there.)
  5. Read books about not biting and give her a word or phrase to express her feeling. (DING DING DING! THIS WAS THE WINNER!)

I mean really! My two-year-old is a chit chatting machine and she understands very well. So that’s what did.

In the living room, near her toys, we posted a “Feelings” poster. We have been using this as an educational tool to help her express what she is feeling inside. We also checked out some books on biting and expressing our feelings.

She now has several phrases and better actions that she can use to express herself. We went over a phrase and an action for what she could do when she gets upset. I told her to put her hands up and say, “Stop it.” She utilizes this one very well, even with me, her mother! Haha! And you know what I do, most of the time, I listen. I listen because I want her to feel like she is heard and that she is important.

Therefore, my suggestion to you, the Mama with a little who is biting kids, is to give him/her a word. Give them an action that they can use instead. Correct the behavior. Don’t just spank them or yell at them and tell them not to do that. Show and tell them what to do instead. Show them that by talking and using an action, other than biting, gets the same results without hurting anyone.

Good luck!

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March Prayer Journal |Fruitful

For the month of March let’s focus our prayer time on these specific topics. Today’s topic is “Fruitful”.


Dear Lord,

Your word says that you can tell a tree by it’s fruits. In the same way that we can look at apple and determine that it belongs to an apple tree, I pray others may be able to look at my characteristics and determine that I am a child of God.

Forgive me for not exercising the fruits of the Spirit all the time, and for not even trying to most of the time. I pray that you would help me to repent and to do better.

I pray that you would help me to exercise self-control. I struggle with being impulsive and that behavior gets me into a lot of trouble. I pray that I would be kind and gentle and not harsh and brash . I pray that would be a peacemaker and not a gossiper. Help me Lord to be Holy, set apart, for your glory.

I pray that you would help the person reading this as well. Help them in the areas of the fruit of the Spirit that they may struggle with as well. I pray that you would give them the opportunity to do better. I believe that practice helps and the more that we practice the fruits, the more they will become apart of us.

I thank you for what you are about to do in our lives.

I ask that all of these things be done according to your will.

In Jesus name, amen.

 

March Prayer Journal | Trust

For the month of March let’s focus our prayer time on these specific topics. Today’s topic is “Forgiveness “.


Dear Lord,

Forgive me for my sins. For the ones that I know that I am doing and consistently do, help me to repent and to not do them anymore. Forgive me for the sins that I commit and do not realize is a sin. Open my eyes and correct my steps, in Jesus name.

Lord, help me to forgive others. Your word tells me that if I do not forgive those who have sinned against me, that you would not forgive me.

Help me to forgive myself. Time after time after time I screw up and I miss the mark that I have set for myself. I know that your standards are the only standards that matter.

I pray for the person reading this today. Give them the strength to practice forgiveness as well. Heal their broken hearts. Wash them white as snow. Forgive them for their sins. Help them to repent and never do them again.

I pray that we would be great examples to our children and that we would live lifes before them in a way that is pleasing to you.

I ask that all these things be done according to your will.

In Jesus name.

Amen

Mama2Mama| Forgiveness

Mama2Mama was meant to be a YouTube series that I posted every Monday and eventually it will be, but for now the written word is just as important as the spoken word.


In my younger years – which isn’t that long ago, I’m only 26 – I used to practice forgiveness often. If someone did me wrong, I thought, oh well, I forgive them and move on, sometimes reconciling and sometimes cutting that person out of my life. However, now I find it so much harder to forgive.

I believe it’s because now I am very up front, I tell people how I am and I draw up my boundaries and basically tell people how it is, in the nicest way possible. Then after that, if someone was to do me wrong, I’d harden my heart towards them and cut them off and move on. I thought, you know me, so why would you hurt me like that? Yet, that attitude and way of life wasn’t working for me. The weight of a hardened heart became to heavy for me to bear.

Not only that, but my fear of the Lord grew and I began to understand that in order to please God that I have to obey his commandments.

Matthew 6:14-15 

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Here, we are met with a commandment and a promise.

Commandment: Forgive others who sin against you.

Promise: If you do not forgive, God will not forgive you.

Talk about a wake up call!

My first reaction to this verse was:

Lord, you mean I have to forgive my lying baby daddy? You mean I have to forgive my ex fiance who physically and emotionally hurt me? You mean I have to forgive my parents for not feeding me with a silver spoon? 

And the Lord replied with a yes, read Matthew 6:14-15 again.

I mean, God’s word is very clear. Either you forgive as you have been told to, or you don’t forgive which means your sins will not be forgiven. And I don’t know about you but I need ALL of my sins forgiven.

I understand that Paul thinks that he is the worst sinner ( 1 Tim. 1:15) , but girl, let me tell you.. Paul can’t touch this. I am sin-sin-sinner! And if had not been for the Lord on my side, I have a couple of ideas about where I would be. That’s why I am so grateful for the blood of Jesus washing away my sins. I need it! I need him! Therefore, yes, I will allow God to soften my heart. Yes, I will forgive those who sin against me, because 1. God says so 2. I want my sins forgiven and 3. because I want to be like Christ and that’s what Christ has done for me.

So Mama, I encourage you to forgive those who have sinned against you. Forgive them today. Even if you don’t tell them to their face that you forgive them, forgive them in your heart. Allow God to soften your heart. Confess your sins to God and ask him to forgive you. Also consider forgiving yourself. Forgive yourself for dealing with such people. Forgive yourself for not obeying God’s word the first time. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive!

Meditate (focus)  on this and have a good night.

Ephesians 4:32 

32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Love you friend!

Loving Jesus, Gia, and Me

Valentine’s Day is dreaded by so many people, mostly single people, and that’s OK, but it doesn’t have to be that way. In fact, on Valentine’s Day we too can celebrate love. Here’s how:

Loving Jesus 

Today make sure that you spend some time with our Savior. Let him know how much you love him. Let him know that you love him because of who he is and not just because of all of the things that he’s done. Let him know that he is the King of your heart and that he will always be the King of your heart. Take time out to praise and worship him. He alone is worthy.

Loving Your Child/ren 

Make sure that your child/ren knows that you love them. Make them a card. Take the out to a restaurant or to the park. Go to the daycare/school and have lunch with them. Whatever the case maybe, let it be done in love. Unplug from your computer and your phone and spend undivided quality time with them. Cuddle up with them to a movie and snacks and enjoy evening.

Loving Yourself

Don’t forget to show yourself some love too! For me this more than likely happen after work and after I put my child to bed. I’ll stay up a little later tonight and enjoy a warm bible bath. I’ll paint my nails and read a good book or write a little. I won’t spend too much time thinking about the guys that I dated in the past. I won’t bother thinking about the fact that I’m single. In fact, every time one of those thoughts cross my mind today, I am choosing to turn it around into something. I will thank God for my season of singleness. I will thank God for protecting me from counterfeits. I will thank God and I will praise him because he is not done with me yet.

Today, make sure that you spend time loving Jesus, your child/ren and yourself. Don’t allow yourself to get into a funk. Don’t focus on who or what you don’t have, but thank God for what you do have.

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The ministry of Christian Single Mama is focused on helping you, the Christian Single Mama, live a life that is pleasing to God, we are here to help you parent in way that is pleasing to God, and we are here to help you carry your burdens, while you try to please God. Glory to God! As Christian Single Mamas, we CAN and we WILL make it!

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Planning To Cook Healthy Meals

How easy is it just to buy a bag of chips or roll through the drive thru and grab your child/ren a bite to eat?

It’s SUPER EASY!

But, I bet you already know where I am going with this. Just because it’s easy, doesn’t mean that it’s right. Mama, just like anything else going on in life you have to work hard. Not that you aren’t working hard, I know that you are, but we can’t get lazy. We can’t get lazy especially when it comes to our children’s health.

*Below you will find a copy of my Weekly Meal Plan and my Grocery List.

weekly-meal-plan

For Breakfast: eggs and grits, oatmeal, thin bagels with cream cheese and apple jelly, granola, yogurt and blueberries, milk and berry smoothie, cottage cheese and crackers, and mini bagels with cream cheese.

For Lunch: she has lunch at daycare, but on the weekends she’s home with me so we had peanut butter and banana sandwich, and turkey wraps with fruit.

For Dinner, because I cook enough to usually last two days, I include 4 meals. Pasta marinara, chicken and rice and veggies, cabbage and chicken and cornbread, and veggie burgers.

For Snack: Fruit cups ( made from well rinsed canned fruit), blueberry muffins (made from the box), popcorn, oatmeal cookies (followed the recipe off of the container), apples, fruit cup, and crackers with peanut butter ( she loves peanut butter so I make my own, peanut crackers, stay tuned for the recipe).

So there it is! And as you can see, majority of what I have planned for this week is healthy.

There are so many good things that will be going into my child’s body AND my body as well. Eating healthy is not only important for her health, but it is also important for her development.

*Interested in having a blank copy of my Weekly Meal Plan and Grocery List? Click here to download. When printing make sure that you click on “scale to fit page” so that nothing gets cut off.